sitting on the loo with the door wide open, and saying "OMG this shit
stinks, but will you come in and hold my hand while I finish the job"
Reality = 'deal with your shit', then come out and offer the best of
you (if you occasionally fart while you are out and about, that might
be acceptable, and even hilarious if you are 14!)
Now if you are old or disabled in some way and you can't deal with
your shit without some help, then it'll be appropriate to get some
This is where it gets a bit tricky, 'cause what if your disability is all in
Where do you go to get help with historical shit that is still sitting
around causing a stench, and keeping people away, or worse you are
throwing it around and people are now running as fast as they can in
the opposite direction because the shit really has hit the fan, and
who in their right mind will just stand there while your shit comes
flying at them. There may be some way for them to protect themselves
(wearing some form of metaphysically protective clothing) while they
gently scream at you "this is your shit that is flying", "get your
shit together and bury it!"
So in bits and pieces you might become more aware of what is your shit
and what is not, and you may find a healer with some tough metaphysical
overalls, and a gas mask, who might be willing to grab a shovel and help
you bury your shit
Now build a bloody fence around that grave... you might be tempted to
look through the fence, but for your own sake and everyone around you,
don't go back in there and dig around. It's self indulgent and
stupid, and you've learnt the lesson from that particular steaming
pile, so hang onto the lesson, but let the pile of crap stay buried
I can hear you screaming, but how do you let go? Answer: Practice, and
you keep seeking out the healers with the protective clothing...
don't attempt to deal with it in your most precious loving relationships.
Give those people your best. Of course you may occasionally fart, you
are only human, sometimes the pressure is great and it sneaks up on you,
but deal with the big jobs elsewhere
PS Be very grateful for those who are willing to tell you your shit
stinks (don't repay them by throwing it at them! Each time someone
special is brave enough to say or infer it, dig another grave)
PPS The reason you are asking for unconditional love and acceptance
while throwing your shit around in the first place, is that you don't
believe you deserve what you are asking for. So if someone does let
you unconditionally throw your crap at them, you will say to yourself
"there is really something wrong with this person, why are they
allowing me to cover them in crap!"
When you go to a healer (or a friend who protects themselves), you and
they know what you are asking for and you won't be offended by their use
of protective clothing, and other strategies that clearly say "this is your shit,
I'll help you bury it, but don't ask me to wear it"