Share lots of information and there's lots more opportunities for being misunderstood. Listen and there's more of a possibility you will understand.
The irony is if you are strategic with what you share and don't share, you will often be trusted more, while some of the information withheld would almost certainly destroy any fragment of existing trust.
So, are you 'misleading the parliament' when you deliberately withhold certain information, or are you being loving and considerate (considering the knowledge that you have of an other's needs, and 'perceived' vulnerabilities) by listening well and deciding it's not in anyone's interest to share the 'naked truth'?
I'm not posing the question because I have some brilliant philosophical answer to surprise you with, and want your soothing applause when I reveal a synthesised version from the gurus and maybe my soul. No...
My musing is that it seems impossible to ever share all the complex detail of any scenario or decision making process so that you might be completely 'understood'. Language just won't get you there, and I'm not so sure it's even a useful aim anymore (though Covey again comes to mind with "seek first to understand then be understood" - would solve virtually all conflicts).
My answer to sort myself out in the short to medium term is:
Always be strategically loving. Which I think means do what Covey suggested and you'll have little time left for trying to articulate your own detail! The idea of trying to share detail in order to be closer to an other, has some major flaws. Not that I can see the opposite as a way to be close.
If you find yourself regularly hearing the phrase "oh..! too much information", you may wish to join 'the Duck' in the study of political science. I'm not an advocate for 'weasel words' though if you can speak your truth without revealing the gory detail, that might be worth practicing.
I'm hoping there's a way to embrace the shadow, harness it's potent energy, and blend it like chili to enhance the dish. Years ago I read a fantastic book by Debbie Ford - "Dark Side of the Light Chasers". I got the concept of facing and embracing your shadow, but I couldn't actually bring myself to practice it - really own the darkness. When Debbie teamed up with Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson, I dove in again, and again I got it, but it's a very bitter pill to swallow - I think it's digesting a little [Do yourself a favour and get a copy of "The Shadow Effect"]. Admitting to darkness inside might be easy enough for an international rock star [though who would know what the personal demons really were], but often friends and family don't cope with an admission to a "devil inside".
Here's my punt at how to do it [with credit to Debbie for getting me started a few years back].
Look at yourself in the eye in the mirror and sing along with Michael Hutchence, admit to yourself anything that floats to the surface, then if you must share your new insights of "how I work", then use a metaphor or something other than the excruciating detail [unless the detail is vital to your well-being or that of the significant other you are whispering to]. Even a metaphor over used might bring you unstuck. So maybe just accept that your mirror insights could be for your eyes only, enjoy your private singing session, and integrate your new knowing into your personal gourmet dish.
Silence is a great option. I tried it in some dramatic internal moments while being part of a six-way conversation. It was a huge challenge for an ADHD Duck with a couple of strong opinions. I drove away very pleased I'd chosen that option. I happened to disagree with a lot of what had been said [so what!!] BUT I didn't say a word! I was amazed and amused and also noticed some really nice statements to myself, all at the same time. The following conversation within as I drove went something like this:
Duck 1: Did it matter that I didn't speak my truth out loud?
Duck 2: I would've loved to challenge the devil inside two of them...
Duck 1: Why?
Duck 2: 'cause they were so smug
Duck 1: So?
Duck 2: It would have been fun to wake up the devil
Duck 1: It may have awakened anyway??
Duck 2: My devil probably would've woken and they would've argued till tired then fallen back to sleep
Duck 1: I'm content
Duck 2: I'm content too. It was more enjoyable than devil to devil interaction.
Duck turns on his head-light and swims into politically dangerous water
Footnote: I only just realised while searching the net (so I spelled names and the title of the book correctly), that Debbie passed away in February this year. Rest in peace Debbie, you have had a profound impact