I want you to assume a few things about me.
It is rarely my intention to offend you (even if I don’t like you as a human being). I would rather avoid you altogether than offend you.
I’m sure that often I do accidentally offend, so feel free to point out in detail if I have done that, because I would like to address the wrong if I can. Again, even if I don’t have any intention of socialising or working with you (just ‘cause I don’t like you doesn’t mean I want to intentionally annoy you or cause harm in any way, I’ll just leave you alone).
However if I do want to deliberately offend you, you can assume it’s because on a particular point or occasion I have decided that it’s worth the risk physical or emotional to point out that you have crossed a line for me (or someone I care about), and that I have very clear intentions of letting you know that you are not welcome to venture into that territory again. And if you do enter what I consider to be my space, you will likely hear more of my thoughts about my personal perspective of you. So from my angle if you take offence to me either asking you to remove yourself from my personal space (physically or metaphysically), or me pointing out some of my observations of you and the influence you are having on me, then that doesn’t make complete sense. Because unless you are an authority over me, and your role has some influence over how I play my roles, and/or you have something really useful to assist me in performing my roles and reaching my goals, then you can assume that often I would like you to just .... ..., i.e. please go away and deal with your own mess.
I am not assuming at all that you have any interest in my opinion of your unique characteristics, so I imagine if I share my opinions with you, in return you may feel more freedom to share some more on where you consider my blind spots to be.
At some point it will be clear to both of us that neither has any interest in the other, and hopefully that’ll be the end of it. However sometimes it takes a little while. In the meantime I’m grateful for the little bits of pieces of insight offered by you as hopefully it gives me a better perspective on the whole (the Universe and beyond). So if you see me walking away shaking my head, it’s because I wonder why you haven’t figured out yet that for the majority of the time I don’t care about your view of the Universe (assumption again, 'cause maybe you have sensed my lack of interest, and you may mistakenly believe I value your opinion and you think you are doing me a big favour to share your views).
It seems to me that what you have shared so far means that we don’t agree on the simplest things (simple things often being the most important). So my guess is that if we had a complex conversation about anything, the same would be true. Also I'm aware, an assumption. If you want to start a yarn about something you’ve been pondering that is really complex, I’d be really curious to see if we have any common ground. I'm not assuming that it's worthless to have a conversation with someone with whom you have no common ground, it's just that it makes more sense to me to find people to play and work with who even if there's not always shared views, if you like them as a human, there's a heap of mutual respect and fun being had in the process.
So please assume that I am doing the very best I can to play my roles to the best of my ability. If you have some constructive criticism I may be interested, otherwise just keep your thoughts to yourself. Because if it's obvious to me that you don't like me, I'm going to assume that someone who does like me and is also going to offer me constructive feedback, is going to be a hell of lot more pleasant to journey with.
That's another thing you can assume about me. I like pleasure a lot more than pain. So even the painful tasks I have to perform, often have funny and quirkily satisfying aspects that I'm grateful for... so don't assume I'm in pain. I might be working through something tough to gain some worth while pleasure.
You can assume I'm not perfect, but I'm starting to get used to being in this particular skin
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