Whatever the complex process, what do you do with that information? Do you actively confront the person knowing that you could create an even bigger messier loop of misinterpretation..?
Then have you ever asked yourself if you could be totally open with the entire human population about your internal process, would you be? I very much doubt it! There would be no confusion about your intentions 'cause all your reasoning would be there for the reckoning BUT would your complex convoluted explanations to yourself for how you justify your thoughts and eventual action (or lack of) be enough to convince the masses that you are safe to share the planet with THEM?!
In my experience some people are so bad at covering up there internal process (even without expression through words) that it's quite obvious that it's not safe at all to hang out with them, so I don't. So the funny thing is... those that are careful with process (better at the cover up - or is it awareness that if they carelessly process their perception of you, the reciprocal gifts will follow shortly) are often better company. Most of us regularly state in some way that we want the raw open process "I want to know you and be known" - but do we?
I have some mates that are extremely articulate in their ability to gently infer their experience without ripping others to shreds. They have taught me some of their skills, quite gently really. I share less raw thoughts than I used to, but paradoxically I feel closer to them. Is it an illusion? The closeness I mean. I don't think so. I think there is loads of unspoken respect, even love. A shared knowing that we are fallible. We share some important history and so we can speak in code about our vulnerabilities, dreams, fears, and failures. We support with curiosity, encourage and even laugh along with the most awful bits - deep empathy that makes sense of some conscious screw ups, and less obvious failed dreams...
I crave that process. It's intensely personal, funny, warm, safe, grounding, and a million other things that are unlanguaged and totally known
Duck looks forward to the next flight South