Is there any connection between those words/concepts? Do the words link with the same concepts for you as for me? Unlikely... (the reason the comingunstuck blog was born... that is, often we assume that meaning is shared, when in reality it very rarely is, in my limited experience).
The 'garden philosophers' briefly shared their definitions last night, and there actually did appear to be some shared concepts...
You may need to have a some level of insight into any given social scenario to be able to be diplomatic, or maybe if you are concrete enough and believe that 'rules are rules' - you can play by the rules and have absolutely no understanding of the overall game. Play the game well by the rules, and most observers will think you are a brilliant player, and you yourself may be in Nirvana!! Ignorance could be bliss...
If you do have insight into the overall game but it's really messing with your enjoyment to have insight, can you deliberately suspend your insight in favour of just enjoying the game? Maybe temporarily, but you'll still know that there's another layer of the game - a satisfaction, or lack of, that only you can explain to yourself.
If you play the game well enough you can win regularly, but that does not always mean that you enjoyed the game, and then; the question is, did you win if you won by the scoreboard, but didn't enjoy the moment by moment game?
My high school experience was that I spent ninety five percent of my out of class time playing organised games, and I played competitively against opponents that were often technically better than me. Two things happened from my perspective. I think I was getting better at playing the game technically, and I was enjoying every minute of it. One of my regular opponents was reminiscent of John McEnroe, and didn't seem to be enjoying the process unless he was annihilating me! (But that was my experience of him - he may have been secretly loving every moment even when I did beat him...)
So now to the concept of reputation... he had a clear reputation of being a fierce opponent, but also a sore loser! I had consistent encouragement from a range of directions that being a good loser and enjoying the game was more important than winning the game (not that I was always a good loser in my mind. I envied some of my opponents dark energy, and determination to win - but who could I share that thought with in my world? Nobody). Though from my perspective I won every single time, 'cause I really did enjoy the game. That didn't mean in any sense that I lost my passion for wanting to technically destroy my opponent. It was primal powerful stuff, I can still feel the energy as I write!
So, my musing this evening is about all three of those concepts as a way of life... I believe if you have a clear view of what sort of reputation you would like to build, and you have a birds eye view of the game (insight), including the notion that enjoyment of the game is the pivotal factor, then the scoreboard matters less as a foundation than as a way to keep track of your ongoing skill, and a motivator for personal development. And you'll figure out ways to play diplomatically, 'cause it seems the best way for all to enjoy the game.
Find someone to play with that has similar insights into what the game is about, otherwise you'll spend your match time arguing about how the game is to be played, and you'll have less time for the court. Get a coach (for yourself). Deliberately stretch each other - or you just may get complacent and the game will get ordinary (might be worth exploring a whole new game that neither of you have played, one that you're both passionate about).
Some will misinterpret your playing style and see you as needing to win at all costs, others will understand that you have a passion for the game for its own sake (I'm in the crowd and on the court at the same time). I'm happy with a draw, but only if I've given my all. It's thoroughly entertaining from wherever I stand.
My hunch is that finding a worthy opponent is about recognising the skill and passion in an other. A mutual respect for the game so far, and a silent agreement to test each others mettle... My tentative link between 'Diplomacy, Insight, & Reputation' is that if you don't make some connections between those concepts, you won't be warm enough and you'll suffer more injuries
Duck waddles onto the court, ready as he can be for the serve